It’s the wedding post!
The wedding was the most fun day I’ve ever had in my whole life. My bridesmaids were the greatest group of friends and set of bridesmaids a girl could ever ask for, the day was perfect, my dress was incredible, the food was awesome, and everything was flawless.
I feel like I want to write every single detail from the day but that would be a super long entry, so I’ll highlight my favorite moments, in no particular order (but I’m saving my most favorite moment for last)
1. The Bridal Party. The bridesmaids and groomsmen were all the total best, from the beginning. I don’t know what goes on on the bridesmaid episodes of say yes to the dress, but none of that happened with my friends. We all were nothing but excited and friends. There was a moment when I was getting worried because my dad was trying to drop my dress off at the venue but it was closed and I was worried because I didn’t want my dress to wrinkle from being in the bag too long, and there was no one I could call to fix the problem of the venue being closed when my dad was there. My friends proceeded to pour me more mimosa and speak at me in gentle tones.
My best friend since high school, Melissa, was my maid of honor. I kept having really real, really intensely emotional moments where I realized that she and I have been planning this since high school, since before I even knew who I was going to marry. So many things in my life didn’t go the way I planned, but I always planned on Melissa being my maid of honor and it was so amazing and perfect and RIGHT that she was.
The groomsmen were just as great. They all got their tuxes on time and took CJ to new york for a bachelor party and looked handsome as FUCK the day of the wedding. Burke, the best man, was probably the best best man in history. At the rehearsal dinner he noticed the tension with CJ’s divorced parents, their significant others, and how it was making everything awkward for my parents, and he made it his best man duty to sit at the parents table and charm the awkward away. We all really really needed that. And then the day of the wedding, he came down to the bridal suite to get my wedding ring so CJ could give it to me when the time came, and told me I looked beautiful and was “a total babe” which made my inner freshman who had a huge crush on him just absolutely die. Later, when everyone was lining up for the ceremony, I saw one of the groomsmen RUNNING out of his car to make it in line in time and Burke turned to me and said “I didn’t say anything about him running late because I didn’t want you to worry.” Smart move. Take notes boys.
Butterflies! At the ceremony, instead of rice or pebbles or bubbles or sparklers or anything else on pinterest, everyone released butterflies at the end of the ceremony! Butterflies actually ended up being the theme of the wedding, but not overly so. There were butterflies on the invitations (I considered the invitations to be a clever hint), butterflies at the ceremony, and butterfly cookie cutters as favors. Luckily only one butterfly didn’t make it. The rest of them fluttered away on the breeze.
The Weather. I’d been watching the forecast with nothing but fear and dread for the two weeks leading up to the wedding. Two weeks before the wedding the forecast looked like nothing but rain. A week before the wedding, the forecast looked like nothing but rain. Days before the wedding it looked like there might be an isolated thunderstorm and some clouds, but like we might survive. The morning of the wedding it was foggy and cloudy. But by the time we were done getting our hair and makeup done, the sun was out and shining with just a few white fluffy clouds in the sky. We all could not believe it. It wasn’t overly hot, and everything looked SO gorgeous out in the sunshine.
The Venue. We got married at Roger Williams Park Casino in Cranston. It was so perfect. we had the ceremony in front of the band stand, and the reception in the ballroom. The outside looks like an old southern plantation house. The ballroom looks rich early 1900’s, which was what I was going for. There’s a carousel at the park too, and the bridal party went and took pictures on it! I rode a lion! my parents made fun of me for insisting (the considered it demanding) on riding the lion but it was worth it! There’s a really awesome picture with my dainty ruffly dress and the ferocious lion face and I really love the juxtaposition.
My Dress! My dress my dress my dress my DRESS! I wrote a year ago about how I got my dress on sale as a sample and it was perfect because it was a size 14. The dress is supposed to be an A-line, and if I had ordered it in my size it would have been. But since I got the sample, I got the bust taken in (9 INCHES) but kept the skirt huge and fluffy so it was more like a ball gown. The train was flowy and gorgeous, and when the dress was bustled the skirt looked even bigger! So much drama! The seamstress made it nice and snug too. It took the entire group of bridesmaids, my mom, and the assistant photographer to zip it up the rest of the way. But it didn’t move the whole night.
The Ceremony Music. One of the first concrete decisions I made for the wedding was a string quartet. I wanted the wedding to be classy as fuck, and I knew it had to be one of the details. We hired La Bella Musica and they were perfect. I don’t have their particular recordings of the ceremony music, but here’s how it went:
Groom, mothers escorted by CJ’s brothers-For the Beauty of The Earth
Bridesmaids escorted by groomsmen-Come Thou Fount of Every Blessing
Me and my dad walking down the aisle-Pachelbel’s Canon in D (Something I’ve always wanted since I first heard it)
Kiss and then walking back down the aisle-Entrance of The Queen of Sheba
The string quartet also performed music during cocktail hour. They were awesome.
Del’s! Del’s frozen lemonade was served when guests arrived at the ceremony. That was one of my favorite little details. CJ and I are very Rhode Island and I liked that we were able to reflect Rhode Island in our ceremony in little ways like Del’s.
#WesleyWedding. We made #WesleyWedding a thing on twitter and instagram and people took it and ran with it. I loved doing it too because I was able to look at the tag later and see pictures and stuff about the wedding people (ie mostly my sorority sisters) tweeted.
My Surprise! Now for my favorite part! Okay so quick back story: I never got an engagement ring. CJ’s and my first ceremony was so quick that we didn’t have time for all the traditional formalities that come with engagements and weddings. I did get a proposal, but it was with a ring he’d given me for Christmas. I loved the proposal all the same and was fine with waiting for my engagement ring. I figured I’d rather wait and get an awesome ring than pester CJ into getting me something just so I’d have one. There’s more important things in life, you know?
And we didn’t get new wedding bands because we planned on using the same wedding bands we currently have.
So, like I said before, Burke came to get my wedding ring, and I had CJ’s wedding ring to give to him. When it came time for the rings, Burke handed CJ a box, and CJ opened it and pulled out a diamond ring-my engagement ring. I immediately lost my shit and started crying. But I was trying to remain composed as much as possible so I was covering my mouth with my left hand. After a few seconds went by without me realizing it, CJ said “…I need that hand” and I laughed. When I was putting his band on his hand I muttered to him, laughing a little “…I just used your same ring so…”
But I wasn’t expecting it at all! I’d had no idea. CJ knew my ring size from before, so it’s not like he asked for it, and I’d showed him the engagement ring I wanted, or a couple that I liked the idea of, so he didn’t need to take me shopping with him, so he kept it totally secret! It was the best surprise! It’s so beautiful! The band is engraved all the way around with beautiful scrollwork.
CJ said he’d gone to this particular jewelry store to see what they could do for him, and they showed him everything they had, and then finally went in the back and found the ring he ended up getting, and asked him what size he needed and when he said a size 4 they said “No really. What size do you actually need?” and he repeated a size 4 and they said “are you really really sure you want a size 4? You can’t make it bigger than that.” But he knew and it fits perfect. It was funny.
I feel like I want to write so much more about the wedding! But I’ll leave it at all this for now. Once I buy some pictures from the photographer I think I’ll post some of them and write some more.
But it was so fun! I hardly finished my drink because I was just drunk off happy and I hardly tasted the food even though I ate most of it and there was nothing but utter and sheer joy the whole day. It was so amazing having friends and family being all fancy and fun together! I want to go to more weddings!
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